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Vicki McKeown

VLM Therapy

My name is Vicki McKeown. I have 15+ years’ experience of working directly with clients; the nature of my work has evolved over time. After qualifying with an MA in Social Work I quickly realised I was unable to do the in depth therapeutic work required to resolve underlying issues, repair disrupted attachments and process early childhood trauma. This resulted in me going on to train as a Psychotherapeutic Counsellor and EMDR Practitioner. I have been in private practice since 2016 based in North Shields and working with clients across the North East. I take an integrative approach to counselling, bringing together a number of therapies and schools of thought. This enables me to work in the best and most tailored way for you, the client.

I am an accredited member of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS) and also continue to be registered with Social Work England.

Counselling/ Psychotherapy
for Adults

Child and Adolescent
Therapy

EMDR (Eye Movement
De-sensitisation Reprogramming)

Dyadic Developmental
Psychotherapy (DDP)

Therapy for
Adopted Children

Supervision

1:1 Therapeutic Parenting Support

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“I contacted Vicki after many failed counselling sessions with other Therapists including EMDR. I just didn’t connect with the other therapists and had many years of trauma throughout my childhood and early adult years. I was coming to crisis point and my past experiences were starting to rule my life, I spent most of my time dissociating and not dealing with anything in real life.

Vicki was lovely, very open and honest and I felt I could trust her so I could open up about my past. Although opening up about my past wasn’t easy because of the dissociation, but Vicki knew exactly when I was trying to deflect answering her questions and promptly brought me back to the question.

With trust, time, compassion and understanding for the first time in years I was seeing, discussing and processing all that trauma I never thought it was possible.”

I am so deeply grateful for the help I have received from Vicki and getting me through that awful time. I am now not dissociating and feel in control of my life.

I would 100% recommend Vicki

Helen, 2019

“My 11 year old daughter sought therapeutic support in 2020, due to growing worries that were affecting her sleeping, eating, and behaviour in the home. She was gradually being overwhelmed by worries and Vicki’s work with her really helped her have an understanding as to how her brain was working and has given her a framework for understanding herself more fully. The concept of strong brain and hedgehog brain was really helpful, and the understanding of how worries come and go, then how to manage them so that they don’t stop and take over everything has really helped her. For us as parents, we have been helped with how to respond to our daughters needs sensitively and recognise the signs of switching off or vacantness being connected to stress and worries. We now feel better equipped to help our daughter moving forward into her teenage years. Vicki’s work has been foundational in helping support our daughters mental health at a pivotal time for her.”

Susan, Parent,

“Vicki has been very supportive, calm and gentle with me. She sets a comforting atmosphere and always supplies tea. She has helped me a great deal with my trauma, and I highly recommend her.”

Anonymous,

“The sessions were specific to the needs of our sons difficulties, Vicki was able to develop a positive trusting relationship.  She is supportive and honest, and during a difficult time of lockdown her support was amazing.

Our son sustained an assault leaving him confused and anxious Vicki’s helped through the difficult time.

He has transitioned between school and college, Vicki supported him to help alleviate his worries and fears, he has made great progress through the therapy sessions and he has been supported to make positive changes.”

Adoptive Parent - October 2021,

“Vicki really helped me, she listened to me when I had lots of worries, we worked together to find strategies to help cope when I get stressed and anxious.  I had lots of difficulties at school and she really supported me especially after I was attacked, she helped me realize it wasn’t my fault and I am a stronger person for all the help I’ve had.

I have started college and I have made some new friends I feel like I have a good future and I love collage.  I still have to sometimes work to manage my big feelings but I have good ways of doing this now, I don’t damage things in my room any more I go for a walk and listen to music.”

Adoptive Young Person - October 2021,

“It was my first time at counselling and I felt very apprehensive opening up to someone I didn’t know, but as soon as my first session started, Vicki made that easier for me and I felt very comfortable. Vicki helped me cope with challenging issues and assisted me with realistic coping strategies that I use almost daily. She was very supportive, calm and understanding and with all this I was able to move forward and make positive changes. Thank you Vicki for all your help and support, I would 100% recommend to anyone. 

Molly - 2022,

“I contacted Vicki in 2021 for help with overwhelming personal and professional issues. My friends are a great support network but I felt I needed an outsiders viewpoint to give an unbiased perspective on my situation and some kind of structured help to deal with it. 

I’ve never had therapy before but would absolutely recommend it and particularly Vicki to anyone struggling or feeling as stuck as I was. Vicki was calm, friendly, supportive and objective. Our sessions gave me a safe space to talk freely and practical coping techniques. I’ve been able to move forward in a positive way at last.”

H - 2022,

I met Vicki towards the end of  2019 when attending a course through Adopt North East on Attachment.  It was recommended that I look to therapy.  My daughter who was about to turn 14 had hit the skids quite badly and had awakened trauma in me that I had long ago thought I had dealt with, but I realised that in order to help her I had to also help myself.  Vicki came highly recommended through the two partners at the time of SCS Training.  I started weekly sessions with Vicki which at first I found incredibly hard going.   I was having to root around in my past, and so instead tried to focus on what was going on with my daughter at the time.  Vicki kept bringing it back to me as she realised I had to deal with my past and try and put it to bed, although deflecting things came so naturally for me.  Vicki helped me to prepare a tree of events which made me realise that not everything in my past was awful.  Vicki helped me realise that although not having a mother of my own around to grow up with at the age my daughter now was.  It made me realise that I was doing everything I could to help my daughter, and in some ways possibly it helped that I had not had her around as I effectively did not have a mother parenting tape to rely on and that it was actually making me a better mother because I would never give up on her.   For me I think it was because I did not bump into my past very often I was able to put it to one side and brush it under the carpet.  Vicki made me realise I did not have to do that any more and that the trigger of seeing my mother instead of being upset that she did not even acknowledge I existed, but be thankful that she didn’t because at the end of the day I would not have been the parent I am today.  

I would highly, highly recommend Vicki as she really listened to me whilst gently pushing me back in the direction I needed to be rather than deflecting as I had seemed to do so easily.  Although compliments I am still not great with! 

Roll forward to 2022, I am in a much better place, our family is in a much better place, and our daughter although still hits bumps in the road is in a much better place.  

I don’t like to think where we would have been if I had not met Vicki and under her guidance realised that I am not a failure and that I am doing the best I can as a mother, wife, and friend and that no one is perfect.

Annon - 2022,

“I’m very appreciative of the time Vicki spent with X and X, how she valued their thinking and promoted their insight into their own experiences.

I like Vicki’s common sense approach, that she was reliable and very considerate.”

Adoptive Mum, 2022

Adoptive Parent - 2022,

“Vicki is friendly and actually quite funny at times. She is a good listener and never puts words into your mouth like some general/school counsellors do.  She is nice to talk to and explains things clearly so that you understand why you may be feeling or behaving the way you are.  Vicki often knew why I felt the way I did before I did and she always helped me to understand why and how this could link to the trauma I had experienced in the past.  I would definitely recommend her therapy sessions as they really helped me.”

E, age 16- 2023,

“Vicki has been supporting our children at different stages on our family’s journey since my twins were 8 years old.  I can honestly say her therapy sessions have made a huge difference to the dynamics of our family and the way we parent, support, discipline and interact with each other.  We have covered everything from the impact of birth family neglect/trauma, behaviour management, self-harm and more recently our twins have explored their birth family history  while doing their life story work so they can make real informed decisions going forward. Vicki is non-judgemental, kind, caring and supportive.  Her knowledge of PTSD trauma and how it impacts and affects our children’s life and choices was excellent. Vicki not only worked with us as a family but engaged and advocated for us with other professionals working alongside us including school teachers, school counsellors and more recently college tutors.  I can’t recommend her therapy enough, it’s like having a personal therapist and cheerleader all rolled into one.”

A, Mother of Twins - 2023,

“Thank you Vicki for all your support with our child’s journey. You got him thinking about himself, his actions and his feelings and helped him through the difficult transition to high school. Your support for us as a family has been invaluable.”

Adoptive Parent, 2025,

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Misspelling someone’s name isn’t just rude, it shows a lack of care and consideration. A person’s name is often the first and most fundamental part of their identity.

I’m continually surprised by how often I email someone, sign off as Vicki, and receive a reply starting with “Hi Vicky.” It may seem small, but it can immediately set the tone of a relationship.

Now imagine how this feels for care-experienced children and young people who have assessments, reports, and recordings where their name is spelt incorrectly or inconsistently. 

When I read assessments like this, it makes me question how well the professional truly knows the child if the basics aren’t right, what else has been missed?

We are all busy, but getting someone’s name right is a simple act of respect.

Please take the time to check. Names matter.

#NamesMatter #RespectMatters #TraumaInformed
#CareExperienced #RelationalPractice
✨ End of Year Reflections ✨

As 2025 comes to an end, I wanted to pause and reflect (something I’m always encouraging others to do… and sometimes forget to do myself!).

It’s so easy to get caught up in the busyness that we don’t always stop to notice what we’ve achieved, what we’ve learned, and just how much growth has happened along the way. 

So here goes…

In 2025 I’ve had the privilege of working with 46 children, adults and families, including private clients and those within adoption, fostering and SGO. Work I continue to love and feel privileged to do. 

At the start of the year, I had an amazing opportunity to do an exciting recording for KOMO Global. Huge thanks to Diego Melo and Brian Mair for making that happen.

I’ve delivered both face-to-face and online training alongside my lovely colleague and friend Haley Muir part of @bmbultd. And thanks to @aandfpodcast BMBU has gone on to deliver 12 monthly podcasts, helping to expand conversations around some really important topics and a few detours along the way.

I’ve also been part of 10 adoption panels this year as an independent panel member. I continue to be passionate about ensuring prospective adopters are trauma informed and prepared for the reality of parenting a traumatised child lifelong!

One of my proudest moments this year was finally releasing Jake and His Shame Armour and the accompanying guidebook with my friend (and the brilliant brain behind Shame Containment Theory) Lisa Etherson @shametrainingco 📕 

I co-delivered training on Vicarious Trauma with Dawn Velody, someone I met through adoption panel work (proof that like-minded people always seem to find each other).

I also started coaching sessions with the lovely Lou Mason, which helped me refocus… and directly led to me running my first Life Story training for therapists (sometimes growth comes with a gentle or big nudge).

And finally… I’ve tried (and sometimes failed 😅) not to work every Friday, in an attempt to create a better work-life balance. That’s meant more exercise, dog walks, and much needed catch-ups with friends and family.

Feeling incredibly grateful, reflective, and quietly proud as I step into the next year 💛
Out of office is officially on after a very stressful start to the day thanks to my laptop refusing to turn on 🤯💻

This time of year can bring a whole range of emotions depending on people’s situations. For some it’s joyful and busy, for others it can feel heavy, lonely, overwhelming, or all of the above.

However Christmas looks for you this year, I really hope it’s whatever you need it to be whether it’s gentle, restful, joyful, or simply manageable.

Wishing everyone a safe Christmas! 

#christmasbreak #outofofficeon #vlmtherapy
Routines, and warnings and clear expectations help a child’s (and adults) nervous system to feel safe even during the festive chaos. 

#planningiskey #preempt #routines #predictability #parentingatchristmas
As Christmas fast approaches take the time to reflect on what it means to you and your family. 

It’s sad to see the pressure parents are putting on themselves with elf on a shelf, new Christmas jumpers, multiple advent calendars, Christmas Eve boxes, meeting Santa trips and going to the pantomime. It’s totally overwhelming and I wouldn’t be surprised if strong brains switch off (adults included). 

I am gobsmacked at the extravagant and expensive gifts people are giving and receiving often pushing people into debt.

We are living through an energy crisis and for many the focus is on finding the money to put food on the table, pay the bills and keep the house warm. With this in mind remember presence over presents this Christmas. 

Sometimes the most inexpensive things make the best gifts and create the best memories- evidenced by me in a cardboard box having a fab time with my Dad.

#presenceoverpresents #christmaspressure #slowdownthischristmas #VLMtherapy
Shame at Christmas 🎄 

Christmas isn’t a magical time for all children, especially those that already carry a high level of shame. 

Take the take to pause and see this behaviour for what is it- shame armour which is there to protect! 

#shame #shamearmour #shameaware #shameinformed #letstalkaboutshame #bigemotions #christmaspressure #traumaatchristmas #adoption #fostering #jakeandhisshamearmour
We can’t ask children to:
– regulate big emotions
– calm their bodies
– put their phones down
– talk kindly to themselves

…if we’re shouting, doom-scrolling, snapping, or glued to a screen saying “just a minute” (for the 47th time 🙃).

Adults are often the worst for scrolling. And children notice everything.

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being human with our children, showing them how we calm down, take breaks from tech, apologise, reset, and try again.

If we want them to learn it, we need to practise it too.

#VLMtherapy #Parenting #ModellingMatters #PutThePhoneDown #EmotionRegulation #GoodEnoughParenting
Winter: the season where it’s dark when you wake up and dark when you finish work.

It’s so easy to slide into a low mood and lose all motivation.

So, in a moment of bravery (or madness), I signed up for the Strava challenge- 12 runs between the 1st and 25th December. I know one of the ways I get things done is if an app publicly shames me when I don’t. 😅

I may be behind but tonight, me and Nala completed run 5/12.

Nala decided she needed 27 wees, so the run was basically an interval session designed by a small sassy Chug 🐾😂

Getting outside, even in the cold and the dark gives me such a boost when I’ve done it. 

#winterdays #getoutdoors #beactive #vlmtherapy
Christmas can be a busy, triggering and overwhelming time for many of us.

There are a few things we can do so that it feels a little less overwhelming-
🎅🏼 Know your own triggers 
🎄 Plan your days through December 
⛄️ Use your support network 
❄️ Know your no nos!

#christmas #beprepared #traumaatchristmas #boudariesatchristmas #triggersatchristmas #parentingatchristmas
Book recommendation 📕 

So many children learn to “blend in” long before they learn to be themselves. Carlos the Chameleon is a great reminder for children (and adults) that you don’t need to change your colours to be worthy of love. The right people will accept you exactly as you are.

#therapyresource #chameleon #mask #traumaresponse #feelings #managingemotions #beyou #selfworth
Obviously I have lots of thoughts about all the media attention on adoption disruptions but these are some of my initial thoughts and reflections. 

#adoptiondisruption #adoption #postadoptionsupport #ASGSF #adoptiontrauma
✨ Grief & December✨

The Christmas season can elicit so many emotions, especially for those carrying loss. 

Loss doesn’t always mean a death. It might be the end of a relationship, the distance of someone who was once safe, or for care-experienced people, the grief of not being with family or having the family and sense of belonging you deserved.

Grief is not just emotional, it’s held in the body and the nervous system. The holidays can stir memories, longings, and old attachment wounds. You may find yourself feeling overwhelmed, numb, disconnected, tearful, or unsure of what you “should” feel. All of these responses are normal. They are your system’s way of trying to protect you.

There is no right way to experience this Christmas season.

You are not expected to be festive when you’re hurting.

You don’t have to perform togetherness if you feel alone.

If this Christmas brings sadness, tension, or the resurfacing of unmet needs, please know, you are not difficult, broken, or “too much.” You are responding in ways that make sense given your history.

Be kind to yourself. Create the boundaries you need. Take breaks from people or traditions that feel unsafe.

#lossatchristmas #traumaandchristmas #griefatchristmas #loss #grief #oldwounds #christmastriggers
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